The Art of Lovemaking

Lovemaking can be an unforgettable experience provided it is done with the right touch in the right spot at the right time with the right person. We are very much aware of our physical body but not of the energies which are influenced by our thoughts and emotions to a large extent. Lovemaking is a complex way of expressing your love to your partner without using words.

If you are just involved in sexual activity, it is limited to the physical satisfaction whereas in lovemaking both the partners use their mind and body to reach out to each other’s heart. Lovemaking unlike having sex can never get monotonous as your acts are guided by intuition, and there is no room for doubts or any worries. You can spend your lifetime exploring and learning about your partner’s pleasures and not get tired or bored. Like old wine, it is said to get better and better with time and not only that, with time as your love blooms, your passion also grows.

Here are few tips, which might help you in defining lovemaking and what it involves:

  • First of all, you need to be comfortable with the idea of intimacy. You need to feel safe enough to let go of all your inhibitions and even if there is a small doubt or less anticipation, then hold off on until you are very sure.
  • Do not expect your partner to know what you want; you need to verbally communicate your feelings and thoughts to him/her on how important they are to you.
  • Lovemaking is all about showing your partner how much you love them, and it is not about just the physical act of release. It is neither slow nor fast; it is all about showering your attention on your partner, focusing on pleasuring them, expressing your love with your entire being.
  • In lovemaking, you connect with your partner at various levels, physical, emotional, and spiritual, and body contact is critical to bring about these connections. You could hold hands; embrace each other, cuddle, etc. Positions like missionary and spooning are said to be more suited for lovemaking because your bodies are in contact with each other.

  • Caressing, kissing, and fondling is another way of expressing your love. Kissing with intensity, with all your feelings poured into it is a great way of showing your love. Kissing is not just a peck on the cheek; hold your partner’s head with your hands, bury yourself in the kiss, let yourself go.
  • A verbal indication of your feelings during lovemaking is also very essential. Let your partner know your feelings, what you like and what gives you more pleasure. It could be words or any other physical gesture, which will guide your partner to your preferences. Show your enjoyment without any reservation.
  • Being light hearted and playful can make your intimate moment more joyful.
  • Cuddling, hugging, kissing is not limited to foreplay alone. Nonsexual body contact after lovemaking is also very important. Especially, women love to be cuddled, held in a warm embrace after the act of lovemaking. For men, it could be caressing his hair or even a little massage, can make him feel loved.

Having sex and making love both are breath-taking experiences; you cannot differentiate one to be better than the other. It all depends on what you expect from your partner and your life since lovemaking is about connecting at a deeper level and is not selfish, it is all about showing your partner how much you care.

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